Interesting that you claim to have "dirty hands." I never suggested that watching porn made you "dirty". This may piss you off yet more, but generally when people are so reactive and continue to stew over a post, it is because it is hitting a nerve. Perhaps it might help to think about why it bothers you so much... And, I mean that quite sincerely.
Doc,
I don't think my comments have much at all to do with some mysterious male/female divide. I haven't condemned porn or masturbation. I'd say porn is fine and masturbation essential, lol. Both can certainly be part of a healthy sexual R.
Rather, my comments have to do with the effects on intimacy of keeping one's sexuality and sexual activities in a private world. Your W has done this with you, beyond the A. She enjoys making erotic pics of herself, yes? Doesn't that secret activity hurt the intimacy between the two of you? What if you learned that she in fact enjoys sex toys? Do you think that her feeling like she had to keep that secret and keeping it in her own private sex world just might have negative effects on intimacy?
