I accomplished a lot on Friday but have paid for it ever since with complete laziness! My only excuse? Mom has been horribly sick the last two days and has needed me here so I haven't been able to go spend time with my friends like I had planned. See what I mean about plans? That's why I don't make them - they always get screwed!
I have had time over the last two days to dive deeper into a book I am reading (4th in a series) so I did get to do something I enjoy. I just think that the things I enjoy are far to isolating. Reading, watching movies, listening to music. Those aren't things to do with other people which I guess is why I'm such a loner. Gosh, I never thought of it before, but it's no wonder I never meet any people. I've honestly tried to find things to do that involve others but there are such limited possibilities. I should think on it some more.
Marc came home from Gabe's this afternoon and as soon as he walked in the door I could tell he hadn't had his meds today. He was bouncing off the ceiling and beyond wired. I asked him if he had his meds and he said no, when he went to take it this morning it was gone. I purposely sent him to Gabe's with only enough medicine for the two days he was there. In the past, when he would go I would just send the bottle and then at the end of the month he would be short 4-6 pills and would have to go without for a few days. It's a controlled substance so can't be refilled until 30 days is up, no matter what. I asked him if he had dropped the bottle - no. Did anyone else handle his meds besides him and his dad - no. I immediately called Gabe and asked him why he hadn't had his meds. He said he went to work early this morning and didn't know what had happened to him. I was so worked up by that point that I told Gabe that he needed to control Marc's meds the entire time he was with him and if he couldn't do that then Marc could not come there. They need to be on his person at all times because they are certainly not disappearing on their own. Yes, an accusation without coming straight out and saying it. I don't know who is stealing his meds, but someone is. Marc knows how important it is for him to have them. If the broom or her son (who is only 8) is taking them from him, then Gabe having them with him would solve the problem. If Gabe is the one taking them (he has ADD but goes unmedicated now - used to take meds in the past though) then I'll find out pretty quickly.
I was pretty pissy on the phone with him and was very short. Not yelling, but stating fact. I'm not Ms. Nice Guy when it comes to things that are detrimental to my child. If his dad isn't going to insure his wellbeing while he is with him, then he's not going to be with him. I swear I'll get a court order if I have to. Mama bear's back is up! I gave Marc a short acting booster to get us all through the evening. He came and told me thank you about an hour later because he felt calm now and not like 'his head was spinning in 10 directions at once'. My poor baby. Can you imagine feeling like that?
Nothing else happening since I've been trapped in the house. I'm thinking I might go for a walk right now before the sun sets. That might work off some of the pent up energy. God knows there is no other 'fun' way for me to work it off!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Sounds like your son really needs them. For a teenager to come and thank you for giving him meds because now he can think straight, he obviously needs to have them. So for his dad not to pay attention to making sure he gets them, I see why you are upset!!
Did you go take that walk?? Hope so, I missed the sunset.
MY S12 is quite fine right now because I dropped him off his meds when they said ridilayn was the only answer for him, when I swore he'd NEVER be on. So let's not crush the dads too much ok?
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
I agree with everyone. It's not just about being Marc's father, but being a responsible father. And that means being responsible for all action or in-action when Marc is in his care.
Bravo for standing up!!
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
Thanks for the reassurance. Like I said, I was pretty pissy with him but for heavens sakes - he knows what happens to Marc without his meds. It's like a night and day difference. But his excuse was that he went to work early yesterday. Whatever! I give Marc his meds while he's practically asleep on the days I go to work before he ever gets up. No big deal, but of course he would have to be actually thinking of what is best for his son and not about his own selfish needs. NOT GONNA HAPPEN!
Yes, someone is stealing his meds. I asked Marc where his meds were when he was there. In his bag. Ok, they all have access to it then.
I'll tell you, my evil side sitting on my left shoulder has been telling me all day to contact the 911 center and tell them that they need to do a random drug test right now because I have a feeling that one of their dispatchers will come up with amphetimine in her system. I swear, I want it to be her doing it. I would hate to think that Gabe would take Marc's meds. I also would hate to think that her 8 year old son got his hands on and took meds that are prescribed for a 14 year old that is at least twice his weight. That is a frightening thought.
Dylan, I understand that you wouldn't want your child to have the stigma that goes along with Ritalyn. Just know though, if your child truly needs help and no amount of diet changes, cognitive therapy, or behavioral therapy helps you will give your child any medication that does. ADD and ADHD are real problems. The dopamine and serotonin levels are messed up big time! Personally, I'm convinced one or multiple of these danged vaccines we have to give our children are the culprits but of course that can't be proven.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Dylan, I understand that you wouldn't want your child to have the stigma that goes along with Ritalyn. Just know though, if your child truly needs help and no amount of diet changes, cognitive therapy, or behavioral therapy helps you will give your child any medication that does. ADD and ADHD are real problems. The dopamine and serotonin levels are messed up big time! Personally, I'm convinced one or multiple of these danged vaccines we have to give our children are the culprits but of course that can't be proven.
Eh heh, ever wonder why they have a 'wonder drug' for everything?
S12's problems started off with high seizure activity after his unjuries as a baby, thus he started off on a phenobarbatol. After years of being on it he developed rapid mood swings and then the doctors we're placing him on everything under th sun. I think at one point he ended up on atleast 4 meds at one time. Finally when they said they were putting him on the Rytalin, we noted that his pheno levels were fine and he had not been having seizures anymore for at least 3 years and that the meds were just making him worse. So, we ended up just taking him off as he was a zombie half the time and he's been fine ever since. I even think at one point it was preventing him to progress in learning.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
