I don't think you get it,,,,she is working on herself..Actually, she has divorced my family and friends. So anything where we are invited out to, she declines. She doesn't want to face anyone that has judged her. I take the kids. And she goes out to the bars...Even if I don't, she will still head out a couple nights per week. Usually one of the nights is a 3am night. I don't know how she can look in the mirror and think it is ok either.
Strange night tonight. I took my one son to a 5k race this morning. She was one of the helpers in the race. Then we took the kids to a water park an hour away. Silence the whole way there and back between us. Then I make dinner for the family and clean the kitchen and make a cake with my other son and then take the other son for a walk.
During the walk, my one neighbor says, I hear you made dinner. My W was out and mentioned something. Could that be her bragging?? No Way.
This is the second week of my W first job in 10 years. It is on T, Th from 9:30 to 2pm. I didn't help much last week. But I said are you working tomorrow, I will help get the kids ready. It set off the tough talk, you haven't helped me in all our marriage, why you starting now...I told her to just cut off the tough talk, drop the wall...
I just said why are you just so angry at me when I am trying to help.
She then said, I see you are making changes for yourself and trying. I am working on my self and I am not interested in your feelings right now. The working on myself has been constant line for 4 months. I then did a temperature check...I said, I am not holding you back here from leaving. I usually get, I'm done, I want the D...You name it. Then she said that isn't what I am talking about. I really am trying to work on me. I left it at that and walked away...
I'll take it as a postive.
Remarried 6 mo S 12 S 13 S 16 SD 12 SD 16 SD 17 SS 19
