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[Looking_For_Help]

Hey GIMA,

That's totally awesome that your dad played for the Gators. One of these days you and I need to meet and go golfing.

Sorry about the Dawgs...turnovers and penalties did your team in. The talent level b/w the teams looked pretty equal. The Gators looked in midseason form, then again they did play a local highschool team tonight.

I came home from the sports bar to an empty home...and it sucked. I've tried to keep myself as busy as possible today, but the down time really gets to me. I miss my family. I have the urge to call them tomorrow, but I don't want it to come across like pursuing. I really don't know if I'm coming or going half the time. Limboland sucks.

-LFH

[givingitmyall]

LFH,

I'm pretty disappointed in my team, but I'm not surprised. Feels like a Peach Bowl season...if we are lucky. I don't see anyone beating you guys, though. And I think Tebow gets his 2nd Heisman.

I'm not the usual UGA fan b/c I grew up going to UF games. So, if it doesn't hurt us, I pull for you guys. I ALWAYS pull for our conference against non-conference teams. Without exception.

Would be great to hook up one day. Do you know about the alt world?

As far as you, you just have to stay busy. I don't think calling to talk to your kids, as long as you don't use it as an excuse to talk to your W, is pursuing. You can't pursue your kids.

Just keep working on you (I know I'm repeating myself there, but it's really important). Stay active. When I'm down, a grueling work out with loud musice usually does the trick for me. Do something for yourself. Find a great course to play. I don't know what part of your state you are in, but from planning many golf trips for friends and I, I know there is NO shortage of great courses in your state.

Man, I wish I had made a tee time for myself this weekend now.

[Looking_For_Help]

Hey GIMA,

Just got in from playing 18 this morning. I played with an older gentleman who gave me plenty of swing advice that was helpful. I had a very relaxing time. We were lucky to get our round in...it just started to rain here. I made a tee time for tomorrow morning. This will make it three days in a row for me...but what else do I have to do with the kids away? I'm on my way to Edwin Watts to pick up some new hybrids to replace my 3 and 4 irons.

I have no clue about alt world.

Thanks for the advice...I'm going to call the kids tonight to say goodnight. I'm also going to be as active as possible today and tomorrow. Based on my reading on this BB, I may be the most active out of the bunch. Finally, don't worry about repeating yourself...you have great advice that simply has to be heard over and over again.

-LFH

[givingitmyall]

I'm jealous. Had to call off my plans to play today - s with a fever I expect will get worse.

Re the hybrids, demo a high lofted wood - like a 7 wood - as a replacement for the 3 iron. I did, and my 7 wood is one of my favorite clubs. Can hit it b/w 220-200 and, unlike with a 3 iron, the ball stops on the 2nd hop. Lots of trajectory with the 7 wood.

On the alt world, there may be a FB group out there u might want to check out. Search for "GivingIt MyAll" on that site. Just sayin.

[Looking_For_Help]

Hey GIMA,

I think I had a pretty decent weekend, even with the kids spending the majority of it with their mother at her parent’s lake place. I was able to get in three rounds of golf, planted more flowers in newly purchased planters, worked out at the gym, shopped around for new golf clubs, painted a bathroom wall, cleaned carpets, and watched a lot of football. I’m keeping myself occupied as much as possible. I forgot that I actually enjoy spending time by myself.

The W and kids returned home early this afternoon. I spent the afternoon playing with the kids…they also helped me water all of our new flowers. I then took my son to the driving range to hit some golf balls. While we were at the golf course, my son mentioned that he and mommy wore the same shirts at the Gator game. You see, I purchased matching blue Gator t-shirts for my W and kids earlier in the week so they could all match and look cute at the football game. My son and I wore matching baseball jerseys for a MLB game earlier in the summer and he got a kick out of it. So I thought my W would enjoy my gesture of kindness as well. It was for her and the kids. My W didn’t even thank me when I gave her the t-shirts and I actually thought she threw her shirt in the garbage. Nope…she wore it! Little positive steps maybe? I trying to work on the LL.

This evening my W and I cooked dinner together. Our conversation at dinner mainly involved the kids and the Gators. She was more talkative today than usual, but she had no interest about me…maybe in time.

Anyways, I’m feeling pretty strong emotionally coming out of this weekend. It’s a short week for us b/c kids and I are flying to my hometown on Friday and we’re staying through Monday. This is our NFL weekend. I also have a 20th high school reunion coming up this Saturday…I’m not sure if I going yet…it going to be a last second decision.

-LFH

[givingitmyall]

You sound great. The enjoying being alone is a good sign and is very healthy.

Keep working at you. Keep detaching. You have some great momentum right now.

Just expect her to be up and down. You will too, but the ups and downs will be less severe and less frequent. You will bounce back a lot quicker than you did before.

Keep it up. You are on the right track.

Think I'm gonna make a tee time for this weekend. Dying to play. Played Wed. with some of my co-workers and hit some amazing shots. Hadn't picked up a club in 5 weeks and did NOT deserve to hit them.

[Looking_For_Help]

Thanks GIMA. I hope you're correct that I'm on the right path...only time will tell. I'm just trying to play it cool until Retrouvaille. I'm also waiting to see if I get served with divorce papers this week, it didn't happen last week like it was scheduled.

Just an observation about my W...I think my "home improvements" are starting to mess with my W's head. Earlier in the week I shared what I wanted to do with the house, and I don't think she likes the fact that she's not included in those plans. We'll see if this begins to pull her back towards me. I'm just trying to show my strong, happy, and confident side to my W. I think she's still confused.

Get in as much golf as you can b/c the winter months are approaching. This weekend of golf for me was delightful. For the first time in a long time I was able to concentrate on my game and not my W. I think I'm going to be o.k. regardless of what happens.

Thanks,
LFH

[givingitmyall]

Get in as much golf as you can b/c the winter months are approaching. This weekend of golf for me was delightful. For the first time in a long time I was able to concentrate on my game and not my W.

I play year round. Have a cart cover, in-cart heater and a hat. Ball just doesn't fly as far.

I think KNOW I'm going to be o.k. regardless of what happens.

Keep repeating this. B/c it's the truth.

[Looking_For_Help]

Thanks bud.

[hhh]

Thank you for posting to me yesterday. You're words rang loud and clear and are exactly the way I'm trying to think these days. I admire your mindset and your strength and am glad we are all on this site to help each other.

And you're right, the future is unknown, you never know what gifts may come down your path several years from now. One day at a time. I wish the best for you.
-hhh