Well I have a post in newcomers. I am putting one in here too. My wounds are fresh. My soul tattered and torn. My husband of four years told me last night he did not know if he has it on him to keep trying to make us work. We have been here at this point for the last 2 months. My step son who lives with us told his mom that daddy is not happy anymore. But the kids who have lived with us (mine) since day 1 know something is a miss. We are doing an in house seperation. How do I get through this? I am getting DR book tomorrow. I hope it will be the key to get us back on some kind of track. This is going to be hard. It already is.
t=5.5yrs m=4 kids=4 (8,9,10,&11) I dropped the bomb 10-09 regaining myself in house seperation 9-6-09 divorce final 4-19-10 Moved out 9-17-09
My wife left me almost 3 months ago. I am a great, big, college educated Texas Man and she has reduced me to crying like a little girl with a skinned knee!!
I say all that to tell you that I understand COMPLETELY what you are going thru. Me and the wife tried seperate rooms and things got worse, then better and she moved back to our room. I know now that she was just confused as hell and still is. Thats why I havent dropped her ass like a bad habit!
What I want you to know more than anything is this...you can and will get through this. No matter what the outcome, the sun comes up tomorrow, you keep doing what you do and take it one day, one hour at a time. Thats all you CAN do. There is nothing you can do to make him change his mind. You can only show him what he will be missing!
In fact...it might be a blessing that you will be doing an "in-house" seperation, that way he will always see you and you have ample opportunity to work on things with him! I dont have that luxury and it kills me! I wish you the best of luck and will tell you to read anything you can get your hands on...I especially like the DR and DB books but there are others that might be good to check out. The Love Dare maybe? I dont know enough about your sitch to say wether or not it is possible at the moment.
Get out with your kids this week and do something fun. Go to church. Go to the park. Go thru the Burger King Drive-Thru in reverse! Just do something to get out of the house and away from it for more than 15 minutes (and going to work doesnt count)
I am sorry you are hurting and want you to know that someone in Texas is thinking of you and wishing you all the best!!!!!
M:29 W:26 M:3yrs Together:6yrs Seperated:6/22/09
Do not go gentle into that good night, Old age should burn and rave at close of day; Rage, rage against the dying of the light. --Dylan Thomas
