It's not off the table as far as I'm concerned, Sara, but I was focusing on restoring the affectionate and sexual aspects of the relationship to the exclusion of working on the issues. The man is my husband, so I have no moral or ethical qualms about seducing him at all. For his part, he is trying to be 'loyal' to OW - at least as far as I've been told (back in January). However, those boundaries are his to manage, not mine. And no, I have no compunctions about moving in on another woman's turf when that 'turf' is mine to begin with.
My point is that any slut in Sicily can seduce a man. Being someone he can respect as a wife and life partner takes much, much more. And in particular with him, I think I gain as much or more ground by working on the issues as I do by luring him with sex.
Don't get me wrong - there is luring going on.
Last edited by Dia; 09/08/0912:13 AM.
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