Karen is right, as is Greek and Sara, and I like to think me. You have to work on you, to get you better (i.e., self confidence, self esteem, confidence). This will help in two ways. One, it will make you healthy as a person. Second, it stands a MUCH better chance of attracting your W back than the alternative.
I learned early on here (wish I had known sooner) that a woman will not (cannot?) love a man she does not respect. If she knows you won't stand up to her, she will not respect you. I am not suggesting you turn into an a$$. Rather, stand up to her on things you KNOW you should, like her having an A. There is no excuse for her A. NONE.
Oh, there is a third benefit. Once you develop your self confidence (and I think detaching comes shortly after that), if she chooses to leave the M, you will be able to handle it b/c you either won't care or will realize you deserve someone who will love you.
One of the best realizations I have read here relates to detaching. That is that either one of two things is going to happen with my M. My W will come back (and tehn I get to decide if I still want her) or she won't (and that means there is someone out there who needs me more than my wife and with whom I will have happiness I have never know). Either way, I win.
