I know BJ has his hands full, and I am in the same boat. I can use some guidance.
If we go legal to legal D rather than Mediation, what are my chances of escaping this thing with some skin left?
I am hurting big time thinking about my upcoming mess, and not trying to hijack, as reading your replies to BJ is so similar to my sitch..
IWITW,
The short answer is that D is going to cost more than mediation for sure. However, if your W is going to be fair with regards to property division (50%) and child custody (50%), you mutually agree that D is definitely the right answer to your sitch and things like personal accountability is not important, mediation may be a viable alternative.
The above criteria don't fit my sitch, so my W and I are going to do things the hard way- assuming she is unable to extract her head out of her a$$ before the D is final. I'm seriously stressed about all of the implications too- the emotional impact to my kids, the financial devastation, etc.- but what the hell am I going to do? Of course, my W is friggin CLUELESS about everything- too busy being selfish, ungrateful and daydreaming about a fantasy life like in the movies.
IWITW, Any way you slice it, D is going to suck big time for everyone involved.
M: 41 W: 39 S: 11 S: 10 D: 4 1st contact w/OM: 1/19/09 EA began: 2/14/09 EA discovered: 3/1/09 I file for D 8/25/09 to protect myself _______________________________
