I remember when all hell broke loss and it was all over earlier last year. I felt like I needed an R *inmediately*! I had to have someone too since he was with someone, it ached to be alone! but I resisted and I'm glad I did.
The moment you feel you dont' need anyone to make you happy that's when you'll be ready to date. Right now you can't give fully of yourself, you are not whole, you need to regroup and be happy wiht whoyou are, otherwise you will expect the new person in your life to fill all your emotional needs which would destroy any R in time.
I have 3 days without my kids, I am volunteering lots, I always wanted to but never had time and then-H thought I was a bleeding heart and that volunteeringg was a waste of time. I faithfully go to zumba (dancing workout) classes and the movies, if my cousings can'tmake it I go alone. Like Donna said, make plans far in advance so you are not alone everytime you dont' have your kids. Give your home a make over, repaint a room, etc etc, find things to occupy your mind. A great book I always recomend is "eat, pray and love" and also "the spiritual divorce".
Find a meetup.com group in your area, I'm part of 2 and there is always something to do every month and you meet new people with like interests (I belong to a volunteering and 2 single parents groups).
It will take time, but decide, KNOW right now that you will do great.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
