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She's also said that the kids need to stay in the home. She takes them to school, she brings them home, while I'm working. This is the argument that she makes that I should move out.

So she is calling the shots? This is a lame argument for you to leave. You can get the kids to school. You can get them home. It's not rocket science. And you should NOT leave that house. I mean - WHY should you leave? B/c your W, who is having at the very least an EA, lies to you about her whereabouts - b/c she says that's how it needs to be? Really???? Not.

And from what I understand, she could easily go to her lawyer and make a motion to have me evicted.

And you can do the same thing, Bill.

We've already both filed papers for joint legal and physical custody of the children, and we've agreed to mediation, so I don't think I need to worry about "abandonment". So it might be time for me to get an apartment.

Decision tree: Do you want to be divorced? Do you want to live in an apartment? If the answer is 'yes', then shop for apartments today. If the answer is 'no', then stop being scared of your W and tell her that she can shop for apartments - you are not leaving the family home.

So, in terms of concequences. The thing she's talked about worrying most about is "losing me". So I think I should tell her that, if this doesn't stop, I will not be her friend, I will not be her family, I will not spend time with her, I will not be a part of her life.

I just have to be frank here, Bill. Losing you is NOT a consequence if she has OM. Just not. What do you mean you won't be her friend? Define that and ask yourself if that really is going to make a difference. In that case, you'll just be another xH who is an a$$. Those are a dime a dozen - ask any WAW. What you want to be is a smart man who is fighting for his family. And that fight is going to mean tough love. I'm sorry but saying we are not going to be friends is not tough love.

What do you guys think?

Well, that's what I think.
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