As for that email, you might consider making it very clear to him that trying to put some distance in the M is and was his idea that he conveyed very clearly to you. You were, am, and will not be for it, but won't be sitting on your nicely dressed, absolutely fabulous behind waiting for him to have a change of heart.
Nope. That doesn't work. (Numerous examples)
Actually, it worked in my case as well as the people who were here with me at the time who ended up in piecing. Jen_Jam, Rob and a bunch of others. My H was having an EA, Rob's W was having an A, Jen's H was depressed and in a MLC.
We have to take things on a case by case basis. One size doesn't always fit all. Oz needs to know her husband and know what works for her sitch. If she's *not* really unsure about what she'd like to have happen...well, that's dishonest, and lies have a way of biting you in the behind.
I'd be more tempted to say, "H, I'm sorry you are confused about your life. I know what I want, but I will be okay no matter what you choose. This is not about me, it's about you."
IMO, your H is a chickensh*t cake eater. Keep living your life, and let your H worry about losing you. Power plays often backfire.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
