Your wife is still looking to you to take care of things. If she wants the bills taken care of and her name removed from the accounts that she's on...she can do this herself. You are not her "daddy".
It's not an odd request at all...they will try/test you to see if you will: 1) do it for them and 2)get a reaction out of you. You do neither. Your wife is a big girl and if she wants to end the marriage, then she will have to be the one to do her part. They never want to look like the bad guys in all of this. They want to point the finger and say "see, he/she rushed this and I'm still confused or don't know what I want". Don't react.
Hang in there.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
