The ring issue seems to be causing you more distress than giving you any benefit. I agree with the others- you need to let that go and stop using it as a indicator of the status of your W feelings. For all you know, she could just be f***ing with you if she knows you're watching- put them on, take them off, and keep you off balance. Just a possibility to consider. So let it go- it doesn't matter. Get back to focusing on you like the others said.
The other thing that struck me about the ring issue, not just on this thread but also on some others, is that there's got to be a happy medium between obsessive observation and obliviousness. I haven't worn a ring since Jan. 2008, and my H hadn't realized it until I pointed it out a few months ago. He failed to notice no ring on my finger FOR OVER A YEAR! (obviously, there's more to the ring story, but that's the part that seemed applicable here)
