Much to my surprise, H is moving along with the D. Called me to say he spoke to his L friend - turns out he can't use him after all since this is not his area of expertise. He's recommending someone else to H. (He assured me last week that this L friend was both willing and able to do it. ???)
H tried to still push the one lawyer issue. I bluntly told him that I allowed myself to get screwed over badly already and that I'd be a fool to let kids and I get screwed over financially too. He didn't seem to understand how I'd gotten screwed already, then caught on.
Afterwards, I sent him a message telling him I don't want to start off on a sour note so I hope he could understand why I needed my own lawyer. He replied that it was "understandable and fair". I thanked him and told him that lunch together the day before was nice and that we'll talk more. Told him that S has been having nice dreams and that I think it was making a difference. H sent a happy face. I continued to tell him that he's doing a really good job with them. He said he hopes to do better, with another smiley.
So communication is good, but H is really moving forward with this. Trying to stay calm and deal with this step by step, but the stress is creeping its way in.
