Can I speak up? My H went thru the silent stage a few years ago. He had nothing to say to me, and if we were together we sat in silence filled with tension. I couldn't even ask if the sky was blue! That would have been my fault too.
As he continues to get out of the fog the conversation returns. On rare ocassion we can even have some R talk, but mostly he still clams up about 'us'.
I still move forward with my life while leaving room for H to come along. We used to be on the same trail side by side, then H took a hard left, more recently we're moving more parallel but not on the same trail. Of course this is just how I see my life, my perspective.
One thing that my H did that may be unusual is that there was a short time that H tried hard to 'leave' my family, but that didn't last long and he did a 180 to insert himself in the middle of my family and he's as much or more connected than I am with them!
Good luck waiting out the silent stage, time and patience are your friends.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
Anyone got any thoughts as to pros and cons of txt message saying "unless u can be bothered treating me as a wife, F*ck off and don't come home". No specific incident, just same old just over the boundary behavior and bad day......
nah, wanna send it to him. Just totally over the whole sitch, yeah I know wait 48 hours but sick and tired of waiting and waiting and waiting and for what...a crumb?
WCW, yeah, I know, its not my usual form of communication and not one I avocate either, but it would feel so good!!
H was a spender in Replay, been trying real hard for a few months told me today he had made yet another purchase. It will not break the bank but it feels like the straw on the camels back today. Our last R talk (3 months ago), was that we were selling a couple of large assets so he could afford to move out, he has indicated since then (under his breath) he does not know what he wants to do. So any money talk can lead to R talk we used to talk through this sort of stuff so well, its so frustrating to feel this limbo.
Boy, I know what you feel like SR! Right at the point I`m at yesterday-sick and tired of it all!
DONT send that txt! DONT curse ANYtime anyhow.
Don`t put it in writing(well, text, in this case!)
I`d hate to get a txt like that! Yes, I know how angry you feel but really, what`s money if you lose all the wonderful progress you`ve made so far?
What`s in it for you? Is there anything about H`s purchase that can enhance your life? Or can you use his purchase as a bargaining chip for some dream purchase of yours? Like "You get that toy, now can I choose mine?"
Try the opposite response to what he expects... Be thrilled for him with his new purchase!
Then come over to my thread and bash ME for being pissed with my H...
Must be something in the air - that is exactly the kind of sentiment I feel like sending my H's way today, too, and for similar reasons - the whole money thing. Seems like he has had some clarity with regards to money recently but apparently it is gone again.
No, don't send the text. I am guessing you weren't planning on in - just venting?!?!?!
