Waiting More Than a Dozen Years

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I never said that you are broken, but you *are* stuck. And you will never be unstuck until you stop blaming your unhappy situation on your wife and her medical conditions, and take back your own life once again.

I honestly do wish you good luck and happiness on your personal journey. I'll part ways with you here.

-- B.

You are, of course, free to make that choice. And, because you are so intent on being right about other people (I can understand wanting to be "right" about you own life, I don't understand your wanting to be right about me), you don't know what you don't know.

What you see as "blaming" my wife's medical condition IS THE conversation in which my wife and are currently engaged (and have been for the past 10 days). My wife has reminded me of a few things that to which I had not given much thought. For example, how being on predisone for nearly three years to deal with the autoimmune issues caused all sorts of issues, not the least of which was weight gain.

No resolution yet, just listening and understanding what we've each been through. And there have been a couple of very interesting lightbulb moments. But I hardly consider the conversation that my wife and I are having constitutes me blaming ny wife's medical condition as the cause of the issues. What is present is her view of the role that has played and that is and has been reflected in what I've shared here recently. But if you wish to see that conversation as me blaming my wife, when she's the one that is bringing her perspective to the conversation, if that's the only thing that works for you, then go for it. Maybe, if you reach our age and you have some of our experiences, you'll look back at how superficially you acted. But then again, maybe not.

Goodbye and good luck.

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