A Crossroads

[Can it work]

Thanks again MsM for your post and thank you Golfgirl and welcome to my thread.

I went down to visit my in laws last night with Wee Man. I only expected to go for a quick visit but ended up staying about 3 hours, having a few glasses of wine and really enjoying myself. Afterwards I got a text from my MIL telling me that she was realy pleased we could still do things like that and that she doesn't want it to change because we've all created a strong family bond. It was really nice to hear and I'll admit I was a bit taken aback.

While I was visiting them, the subjsect of my W's new BF arose as well. They've never met him but knew about him. My MIL even admitted to me that they'd been trying everything to get my W to reconsider her stand over the last few months but have finally decided to give in and just hope that everyone can come out of the whole mess happy in whatever way it takes. I'm fairly sure that their input probably didn't help with my DBing efforts but it was good to know they were fighting for us. They still think it's all my W's fault but I told them that I would never blame it all on her. There were faults on both sides although I seemed to be the only one who was really willing to try and work on those faults to give us a stronger marriage. Anyway, it was a lovely evening even though I feel as though I'm paying for those few glasses of wine today!

I agree completely with you Golfgirl that I need to become whole again. It's something I need to do by myself before I can even think about embarking on anything. I also agree with you MsM about playing the field a bit. In a way I'm already doing that. I'm flirting a bit with a couple of different girls and am getting a positive response. At the same time, I'm also being honest with them about where my feelings are with regard to my W. Until I can close the door on that completely, I'm not going to subject anyone else to feeling like they're second best. If however I do end up having genuine feelings for someone, I think it will help me get there. It's all going to be very slow though with no pressure. I'm succeeding in GAL as far as I can. It is difficult when my W and son were my whole life before but I am finding other things to enjoy. I know I have a long way to go but I think I'm on the right road.

Kev