Thanks so much for the input. Given your sitch, I was interested to hear your take. I really appreciate it.
Funny that one of the big things I think was present in our sitch was my not taking a role in our finances. She has always done that. I have been taking more of that back. But it is difficult not to come off as controlling. I perceive she just wants some help and the ability to discuss our finances, good or bad.
