Next thing I have observed. She is the leader and you are the follower. Women who always lead a man sometimes find it very difficult to have the right "romantic feelings" for that man. They go back and forth, back and forth.... (which seems to be what is going on in your situation)
For example... The plans to go to Vegas. First she was going, then she decided she didn't want to go. She then wanted to stay around local. You just blindly went along with whatever she wanted. You allowed her to be wishy washy and just followed whatever she wanted. Then calling it being patient. I call that why you consider yourself a DAM. DAM not only lose women but have a hard time getting one to commit to him.
The man who LEADS (and the man who gets the woman) does it this way.
"I am going to Vegas over labor day weekend to have some fun and relaxation. Would you like to go with me? She then says yes or she says no or she isn't sure. NO MATTER what answe she gives the man IS GOING. With or without her. DECISIVE, confident and secure. She is welcome to come, if not he is still going. AND HE DOES. You allowed her to lead you. NOT GOOD in the long run. When she backed out, you should have said to her. "Ok, that's too bad. I'm still going and maybe we can do it some other time.
She also is controlling when you see each other. When you kiss. She is controlling the playing softball, where you will work out and how fast the relatinship is moving. NOT ATTRACTIVE. "I am playing softball this year, would you like to play on the same team together?" Then YOU sign up by yourself or sign both of you up depending on her answer.
What? Are you scared to lose her by being a leader? The answer is for you to take charge more of your own life. Tell her YOU are the one who wants it to go slow. YOU go slower than she does. Make her see that YOU are not sure if SHE is the right one for you either. You are holding back and being the nice guy that wants he to see how paitent he can be and hope that she sees what a great guy you are and hopefully she will fall in love with you because of you undying devotion to let her lead and control every aspect of the relationship.
Your key is to NOT keep doing more of the same, but to start to LEAD. IF you ask her out and she turns you down, then make other plans and stick to them and don't call her. Go out and have fun without her. Tell her that you too need to take it slow. Let her feel that YOU are not wanting to go fast because YOU don't want to rush because you are not sure. NOT because she isn not sure.
Become a leader of your own life. Quit letting her lead everything including the pace while you sit and hope she will fall in love with you. In the long run she will never have the right feelings for you if you don't become more unavailable, busy and take charge of what YOU want and make plans on your terms, with or without her.
