New home, new beginnings

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Julia,
Its great you have your own space, your own house all to yourself in London! Thats impressive and I'm a little jealous! It sounds lovely and great that you feel at home there now.

As for your H, I read along and I wonder.. do you still love him? Is he still 'the one'? I still struggle with my bf's R with ow eventhough he reassures me it was nothing. I wonder how you would fare if you did win him back.. he's been with her 2 years now hasnt he? And they live together and have been on a few holidays together. Do you reckon you could forgive and forget and go forwards together again and be ok about it?

Well, to be honest he always had these tendancies. When we were at uni he was like that with his mates, and I was too with my friends. We both agreed we didn't like those traits so didn't act like that in front of each other, because that is just what it was, an act in front of friends. I don't know if it is part of the crisis. Going back to teenagehood etc, I have no idea.

You seem to not be impressed with the person he is evolving into, perhaps he is just naturally growing in a different direction, or maybe you are outgrowing him? You say he was always a bit this way, but that you didn’t like it and anyway, it was just a front with friends. I guess we all do that.. have a public face and one reserved for our partner and Facebook is just a jokey friends forum afterall and to be honest, it just sounds like a bit of laddy fun and not that big a deal. I don’t 'know' as he is just someone you describe here, but from the descriptions, he doesn’t sound like a man in crisis. You say that he is, but do you really feel he is and why? He just seems to be moving on with his life Julia, doing normal things for his age, which I know is very very hard for you to accept and desperately disappointing. Or is it.. maybe you have outgrown him and deserve more now??

Hugs to you, Al xxx