I'm coming to realise that too about the leopard. Although I think h did change his spots when he left me, it is just on their time frame when they next change them and we can always wait. If that makes any sense
With regards to h's stuff, Jody said for me to separate it from mine and arrange a time with him for him to come and take it away. I literally put it all in a cupboard, didn't box it or anything. H didn't even bring any boxes with him . It just made me realise how much he expects that I would have done these things for him.
