He asked what I wanted for the future, I said to hopefully enjoy the next phase of our lives together with no children to worry about but that in the meantime I was enjoying doing things I wanted to do for me.
Correct answer....." I don't know what I want right now. Anyway, I am at work and have to let you go. Talk to you later....
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He said he still doesn't know what he wants and that maybe he needs to go away for a month and do everything for himself and that he will probably hate doing all the washing, ironing etc. I said that I understood and that he had to do what he thought was best.
Correct answer.... " I agree. I was thinking the same thing. I think it WOULD be for the best. I'm not sure what I want right now,but it isn't working this way. Anyway, I am at work and have to go. Talk to you later"
He has another woman. He is lying to you and testing your resolve. Wants his cake and to eat it too. As long as you keep allowing him to think that you want him back and keep allowing him to have the upper hand, then things are not going to changes.
You had him coming TOWARD you for a bit. He was a bit worried, but you reassured him that you still want it to work. I think you need to allow him to wonder. The only way to do that is to tell him you agree that it would be best if he moved and that you are NOT sure how you feel.
I know that this stance causes fear. However, it works far better than allowing a man to walk all over you while you try to smile and say "thanks for treating me badly, I needed that"
