Young couple in need of help

[MrBond]

Detach now or else it's going to get alot worse.

[sumguy27]

how am I suppose to do that? I keep thinking about it constantly. I need help or I'm going to have a heart attack.

[sumguy27]

should I confront her on it?

[Stronger]

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You already knew about OM or possible OMs. She's made it clear she's "dating" and wants to move on.

I would talk to Gucci and Puppy before you do anything. Just keep your mouth shut for now. I would take Puppy's advice especially on this one.

[cpfullofhope]

I have to second that. Do not do or say anything right now!!! It will just make things 100 times worse. This will not last and you need to work on you and providing your kids stability. Stop snooping it will drive you crazy.

[Stronger]

sumguy....I know you aren't going to stop snooping. But you should. You really really need to let it go.

[Stronger]

Sumguy,
You ok?
Just chill.
We all screw up again and again. It's going to happen and it's not a big deal unless you dwell on it. Make the proper apologies and move on.
Truth is, you are living to fight another day.

[sumguy27]

Yes it has driven me crazy. Here is the scope on what had happened.
I went to a friends house where she was at with my kids. It was fine nothing big we talked and it was like old times again. My little girl was sick and my son was sleeping on the coach while everyone was drinking and being loud.

I had asked her when she was going to bring them home. She was waiting for the couple that lives upstairs from her to come home at the same time. She said oh well I'm tired and I'm going to go take them.

I helped pack them in her and car and asked,"would you like for me to help you bring them in?" She was like and your going to drive all the way back home? I said I'll have to do what it takes to make sure there safe.

So we get to her place and I bring the kids. Everything was good except her place was still a huge mess. She said she plans on cleaning it tomorrow. So I decided to sleep on the coach as she said it was ok.

But the uglier half got to me. I had remembered I had installed a keylogger program on the laptop.

There it was the password. I checked and there I found the pictures. I had a panic attack walking back in fourth from the living room to her bedroom with the kids.

She started to notice the pattern and said its late if I have something to talk with her talk about it in the morning.

I tired to sleep couldn't did it again. Walked in the room and she said you pyshco! Leave my [censored] place now. I said ok fine please tell me the truth on what had happen that night before we split. I did see a picture. She then back lashes at me and says what have I been doing? I said nothing. So I go back to the living room. Tried to rest couldn't. My mind was wondering like crazy. woke up early and took a bath and shower and kissed my kids and left.

I was having a panic attack all day yesterday and this morning.
I couldn't go to work. Went to get checked and now I'm on meds. havent spoken to her all day.

[Stronger]

Ok. Good stuff on seeing a doctor. Panic attacks are actually normal or at least I had them too when this all started.

You need to take a deep breath.
Can you forgive her?
Do you want to forgive her?

There is no point in moving forward until you can answer those questions.

[sumguy27]

Yes I can forgive her. And I want to forgive her. I love her still so much. Ijust want hrr in my arms right now.