Oz,

The answer to your sitch is very simple. Detach. Detach your emotions from him. Understand that you CANNOT control what he feels or how he's going to act towards you. But what you can control is how you feel and react.

Right now he doesn't want you. Period. Who wants to live with someone like that? Detach and thin, "to hell with that. I'm going to do what makes me happy. If it's to go out with friends (maybe men who are just friends), then so be it. I'm not going to sit at home and let my H bring me down."

You are much stronger than that. Sure you made mistakes. We ALL make mistakes in the R. It's called being human.

If he wants to think you're with another man, well that's HIS problem. He can't control what you do either.

The important thing here is to show whose in control. The problem is that you think it's just an "act". Well it's not. If it were an act, he'd sense it a mile away. You need to really believe that you are done with his foolishness and ready to move on.

When he calls or texts you, do not answer until maybe the third or fourth and just say that you were busy and didn't hear the phone. And that you'll try to get back to him later. Then turn off the phone. It's as simple as that.

He doesn't have the right to pull your strings and EXPECT you to act or do things his way or on his timetable.


M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER