Well Oz IMHO I do think that you have a great deal of control currently. I think that he's acting out because you didn't give him the answer that he wanted IMMEDIATELY this morning. You also have him rattled as he seems to think that you have an om!!
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
I am hoping however that by the time I get home tonight or even by the time I sit down to watch some TV that some of our other friends have come online with their views on that matter as I really really don't have a clue as to what I should or shouldn't say tonight or if I ignore it completeley.
As it sounds to me like, he intends to not be there when I get home tomorrow night after the parade which will be a nuisance as he won't see me dressed up and all the rest.
I hear you. It's good to have a few people give their perspective.
Despite there being some negative comments about the Urgent posts thread that I put up, why not give it a shot? Copy and paste your words there and see if it sparks a lurker in to action??
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
I kept silent as frankly I'm not sure I have that much to add that's of any positive value, and also did get lost a little in the flow of events in your sitch.
Having said that, yeah, your H is exhibiting confusing behaviour. Is he:
- Trying to assert control via subtle emotional blackmail / indirect threat? - Paranoid and finds it a blow that you seem to be maybe, just maybe, getting a life? - Happily on the road to lala land (perhaps with OW) and can't wait to use this as justification in his own mind?
But since you've decided to detach and find your own self-respect, stay the course! So what is he does not see you all dressed up. The point is that you will be, and looking very ravishing. It's too bad for him if he misses it.
As for that email, you might consider making it very clear to him that trying to put some distance in the M is and was his idea that he conveyed very clearly to you. You were, am, and will not be for it, but won't be sitting on your nicely dressed, absolutely fabulous behind waiting for him to have a change of heart.
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.
I'm a bit like Deep in that I'm not sure how to respond here. My initial thought was that he was trying to reassert his control in this situation and says he is going to leave to give you space. However, in reality perhaps this really suits his purpose and justifies his own desire to move out. perhaps my thoughts are too influenced by my own sitch though. His constant texts/calls and emails indicate a bit of a panic though.
What to do now? Where is Gucci when you need him!!??
As it's dinner time you may have already had a convo with him. Will check in later.
I think there is a degree of panic that is why I think he may be a bit paranoid about me and yes I thought it was to try and gain control again as I think he realises he has lost the control.
He won't be home for another hour, so I haven't spoken to him at all yet.
