If you are commited to standing, all choices you make need to be made with the aim of bringing you closer that goal. You can then choose how long you want to stand for before reviewing that decesion. You do not need to decide if you want to separate or not today. I do not know how long I will stand for. I can do limbo to xmas. I understand MCLers often try to hook up at xmas as they miss families, many also try to leave Jan and Feb, so I am expecting movement in my sitch in some direction may occur around then. I will review after then! Thats how I approach it.
I pick up on the flip flopping in you too, and if we do, you H most definately does. If you are In, you need to project this 100%. I do not pick up the same flip flopping in say Cat or Machs posts, even though they have bad days too.
His going home is not a nail in the coffin. Its a visit home he feels like making now. Think of it like a trip to the shops he feels like making. Who knows what he will feel like doing tomorrow?!
