Gotta Keep Trying 2

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Which is where your POV is important. What got you to climb "the wall" back to Coach and your M?

I see similarities in my M and you guys'. I don't think I'm dealing with an A. I think my W just became tired of feeling she was leading in the important aspects of our M.

A couple of things. The first I could detect was that Coach was taking really good care of himself. It's not that he was a slacker or slob or anything before. But I noticed new clothes, dropping some lbs. Smelled great. Walking tall. I've been reading you on here so I know you've got that part covered.

Once I came back, I observed him taking the lead (this matters) on things that previously weighed me down...money in particular. This took some work, for him to understand my questions and for me to understand how he FEELS when I ask, but we really worked hard on being patient with this. Also, he has a firm grasp on my LLs and uses them. I used to scrap the idea of LLs - psycho blah blah - but I surely don't now. I love WOA - esp. when he is bragging to other folks about me (love the good PR). So he looks for opps to do this and I lap it up.

"Climbing the wall" as you say back to our M came about differently than yours will. Remember, I left so there were legal issues, logistical issues, kids splitting time. Coach was sharp when it came to dealing with me in these matters. Fortunately, you don't have the same BS to deal with. But the idea is the same - no nonsense - you want a New Marriage, too - and you are taking a leading role in becoming a better man. You will be the kind of man who has a good and vital relationship with a strong, communicative woman. Show that to Mrs. GIMA in as many ways as you can find. The message should be: "I have a life. You can be in it. Come aboard or stay ashore - your choice - but my ship will sail." I knew I shattered Coach when I left, but I soon saw that he was pulling it together (yum) and GAL (yum). Very attractive.

There were some little things, too, that drew me in. Like eye contact. And really, really listening to me. I'm an administrator at a school so you can imagine I come home with some stories. I need NEED to tell them. He used to multi-task (play with the dog, look at a lacrosse magazine...) while I would download my day. Not anymore. I've got full on eye contact and it makes a huge difference. I think I've read that you're taking care of that, too. Just don't let up. Someone will listen to her. You want it to be YOU.

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