I know that is an area I fell down in in the past. My W is not currently working, but her work is demanding when she has it. Mine too. Probably one of the things we admired in one another at one time.
I have been "leading" much more, thanks to Coach's advice. Rather than sit back to let her make a decision on something, I take the lead and just do it. Not in an "I have to control this" type way, but more in a "I got it" way.
I have sensed her warming up in the last month or so, but still NO R talk. I am not bringing them up, and neither is she. But she acts like my W in 90% of the R. She just isn't ready for all of the wall to come down, or for me to coax her over it.
Which is where your POV is important. What got you to climb "the wall" back to Coach and your M?
I see similarities in my M and you guys'. I don't think I'm dealing with an A. I think my W just became tired of feeling she was leading in the important aspects of our M.
