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[BigJohn]

YEp. HE HAS AN OW.

Hope,

I think that given how you described your H's nitpickiness and ungratefulness, many of us are not surprised to find out that he has a OW. I can speak from experience as this is what my W has done to me- criticize and denegrate me verbally and in her head to justify her involvement with her OM. I'm sure it's the same with you H and his OW.

Neither your H nor my W know in reality how good they really have it with us or what they are jeopardizing by fooling around with their affair partners. They are the type of people who don't know what the have until it is gone. I don't know if this is reassuring to hear or not right now Hope, but you are a far better woman than OW- a much better catch for sure.

I'm sure you are still reeling from the discovery of OW. Right now focus on getting plenty of sleep and reaching out to friends and family- along with the rest of us here on the forums- for support.

Hang in there Hope. You are in my prayers. Take care.