Well, by now I am starting to wonder if it's the "it's not you, it's me" speech, but she does have terribly low self-esteem.
My W has the same problem with low self esteem. I have often wondered how much of a common denominator low self esteem is with WAWs in general. It definitely seems to create bigger problems for the LBHs.
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About a month ago, my W mentioned having an appt with a layer to draw up papers, and I told her that if she was sure that's what she wanted to go ahead. No word about D or lawyers since then. So I have chosen to steer towards a D by starting to separate the last few bills and that kind of stuff. It's had some effect. Is it going to bring her home? IDK
Yeah I hear you Sam. I really did not want to file for D but I have to think that it has definitely woken up my W even if just a little bit. According to my W, OM just dumped her, although she wouldn't say when nor would she look me in the eye when she was telling me this. Supposedly OM told her he was feeling guilty for being the one responsible for the break up of her family and just couldn't handle it. Hmmm, interesting timing, especially since I have maintained all along that the first step towards reconciliation would be for OM to disappear from the picture. Of course, shortly thereafter W advised that she wasn't counting on OM being around forever AND she is not interested in rekindling anything with me. So go figure.
M: 41 W: 39 S: 11 S: 10 D: 4 1st contact w/OM: 1/19/09 EA began: 2/14/09 EA discovered: 3/1/09 I file for D 8/25/09 to protect myself _______________________________
