Oh, you have done so good girl!!! Well done (((Oz))).
Now, as we always say, step back and breath (go do your little dance in the corner, come back and sit down enjoying your moment)!!
This next bit is hard for me to say as I am just as excited as you are but I feel that I have to say, you have only won a battle so far, you have still not won the war. He's noticed what you have been putting out there ... and he likes it NOT!
You have his attention but that's all right now. You have sparked some questions in his mind and you need to continue to run with this for a while ... let him do some of the wondering and worrying - especially now that he's feeling at a low ebb physically anyhow!
Now then, how to answer the email ... well, I definitely wouldn't - at all. Why do you have to have that conversation by email when you are still living in the same house? I would be inclined to do this as a face to face and say something along the lines of
"You are right H, things are not in a good state between us. If it seems to you that I have moved on, I am purely moving forward. I have found new interests and I am enjoying some new hobbies which is making a positive difference to my life. I am growing as a person and I am happy about who I am becoming.
This house was supposed to be a new start and I am making the most of it. Whether you move out or not is your choice".
...and leave it at that!!
Oh Oz .. I think that you should go reading some more posts now and see what you can find as to your next steps. If I come across anything, I shall be sure to point you in the right direction. I am out for counselling at mid-day but I shall be watching with increased interest now!!
GOOD LUCK!! Take your time ... don't forget - baby steps.
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
Yes - he is being desperate!!! Leave him dangling ... you are at work, you are BUSY - do not answer. You can do this Oz ... don't cave now ... keep it going ... it's early in the day but this could be your big chance. Reel him in!!!!!!
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
I am wondering if this is what Gucci meant by "setting the table".
His first text while I was in the meeting was to ask if I was at work. I replied in a meeting. He came back with did you get my email. I replied not yet. I thought I would buy myself some more time as I wasn't ready to answer.
If you feel 'forced' to answer, just say something like "I'm really sorry but I am busy at wrok. We will talk about this later, when we are both at home".
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
I can only imagine how you are feeling but you now have the ball ... don't drop it! What's he going to do if you don't answer ... ? My guess is nothing - he will sit and wait. Don't let him rattle you, that is what he is banking on.
I understand your excitement and yes, it is a big step forward but there's still a long way to go. I am so very excited for you Oz, really I am. I am just urging you to be in control of this and show him that you are NOT going to jump to his demands - not now, not ever. This has to be about you putting your knowledge in to practise ... why undo all that work to have it blow up on you??
Keep calm ... you are AT WORK - he can't expect anything of you at this time. You ARE BUSY - where has H been when you have wanted him?? Mysterious ... come on Oz, gather that Aussie spirit and get on with your day at work! Imagine your drive home!! Don't blow this chance Oz ... keep DB'ing ... don't stop now ... keep us all in your mind ... you know that if you get this next bit wrong, you will be back to scratch position ... Gucci would tell you to take the reigns so take them and DON'T CAVE to H's demands for an answer ... HOLD TIGHT.
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
That's right - and I know that it's hard sweetie but you just HAVE to find the will power to do this. YOU are in CONTROL this time!!!
Rather than let it take away your concentration at work, make that work in your favour. Feel happier, feel more confident than you have in a while and start your thought processes going. Do you know what you WANT to say to H? Won't be too much longer til lunch time and you can sit and think about it over a cuppa!
Until you get home though, take any time that you can to have a look and see if you can get some inspiration on here ...
I'm with you - and VERY jealous!!
I just want you to remember, with all of our excitement over this, this is only a baby step in reality. The alien may still be very close and lurking so DON'T drop your guard, OK??
Last edited by Eskimo Nell; 09/07/0901:14 AM.
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
