That's right..you can't make a relationship without HER. It takes 2 to have a marriage. My h says his affair is over, but since she works at his company, I'm not thinking so.
This is hard, the hardest thing ever, but you have to decide what you want. I did go and snoop at my husband's place and that really pissed him off. Last Friday he asked why I did that. I said it was because he told me he wanted a separation to be "alone" and I knew he wasn't "alone" and I just wanted to confirm it. He asked why I filed for a divorce...I said, DUH??
I have been way too nice these past 3 months and it's time to do a 180. I'm amazing, and I'll walk out the courtroom door in my tight skirt and heels and he'll never see me again if he doesn't get his crap together and fast. I want our marriage to work, but has to want that as well. As others have posted it takes time and patience and now you get to see what you got in those categories.
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
