Since I know the topic of my underwear has caught H's attention, I have added them as a weapon in my arsenal. Several of my jeans are quite baggy due to weight loss, so when I wear them I make sure I have something lacy or naughty showing. In addition, the guest room I've been cleaning out has our laundry machines in it. I did my delicates today and I made sure some lacy camis and other frilly bits were hanging in front of the window.
The Anatomy of a Hug
There's been a change in H's hugs of late. I've gotten two recently where he comes up behind me and wraps one arm across my clavicle and shoulders and pulls me against him. There's a very different feel to it vs. your standard facing each other hug. It's a stronger grab, for one thing, and it has a very dominant, assertive male, sexual feel to it. Not sure if I've described it well, but boy do I like it when I get that kind.
The Power of Pronouns
H has been saying 'we' more lately, and in the context of the future. In the beginning, I was saying we but he was careful to say I. Today he noticed that I'd thrown away some old pillows. They were discolored and didn't smell good. He noted that "When you're done sorting and throwing away everything, if we lack for pillows we can always buy new ones."
The concept of 'us' as a unit seems to be filtering through to the aquifer of his subconscious. Now if we can just get it back to the top as a conscious choice, things will be good.
Last edited by Dia; 09/06/0910:09 PM.
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