The adventure chronicles

[gucci loafer]

I simply responded. I don't know how I feel right now.

Correct response.

If you want to apply for an assignment, I can't stop you just as I couldn't stop you with all the other choices you've made.

I recommend something along the lines of...

"I think that it would be a good idea for you to apply for an assignment."


Try not to say things like "I couldn't stop you" and such. You want to come across as strong. By saying "couldn't stop" you it still is somewhat saying that you may care. You want to let her know that you don't CARE to stop her. That is best said by telling her it is a good idea. You are not only not going to "try" to stop her, but WANT her to go for it.

I would guess here that she is bluffing you to get you to say something along the lines of you don't want her to go. This is a TEST. Don't fail now.

Be very careful with every word. One word can make a huge difference in how you are perceived.

[AFWAW]

I would guess here that she is bluffing you to get you to say something along the lines of you don't want her to go. This is a TEST. Don't fail now.

Be very careful with every word. One word can make a huge difference in how you are perceived.

I KNOW she is bluffing as there are NO assignments out there right now for her. I have to keep track of them for my guys at work and she is in the same career field as me.

I reread every email I send about 40 times before I send it. I have finally calmed down somewhat but am very guarded about what could happen next. I'm not ready for something too "crazy" and I know I need to focus on saying and doing the right things to give off the right perception.

Thanks very much! You've been extremely helpful, extremely.

[gucci loafer]

You're welcome.

I have found it sometimes difficult to get men to believe and follow some of the things that I have seen work so very well to get a woman to WANT to be with a man.

Some men listen and either can't or don't understand...

Those who do.. The light comes on and it all suddenly starts to make total sense. Never back to the old way of thinking.

Glad I could help. Stick to the principles that work.

[AFWAW]

WOW, I repeat, this jealousy thing is very, very, very effective. Just got an email from the wife. Here it is.

Seems to me like you're all done with me now. I'm just glad that I didn't find this out after I came back. It was just a matter of time wasn't it? You didn't and don't want or need me. Can't you find it in your heart to forgive me and give me another chance?

Can I come home after you all get back from your cruise?(D and I are going on a cruise at the end of the month) That gives you almost a month to relax. I am incomplete without my family. I am incomplete without you. I really want to come home. Please let me make it up to you all the hurt I've caused. I would rather be in the mess with you right now than here in this clean apartment all alone. I'm tired of being apart. I want to hold you and touch you and make you happy.

I want to take care of you and spend my life with you. Please consider it. I'm sorry to pester you but know that I mean it when I say I love you.

Incredible, just incredible. And NO, a BIG FAT NO, I'm not even considering it at this moment. WOW!!!! Way too little, way too late.

[AFWAW]

Well, I guess the wife is having a hard time sleeping. Got an email from her at 12:43 am that simply said:

"I beg of you, please talk to me."

Sigh, I really don't want to talk to her. That's understandable, right? I'm not trying to be punitive, I just don't want to feel those pangs of heartache anymore. I mean, I slept well last night. How the freak do I get her to understand that and to leave me alone?

[Kimmie Lee]

Wow. It IS unattractive. I am so glad I never begged my ex to come back.

Well, as Elizabeth Taylor says, "It's not the having, it's the getting."

[Kettricken]

Put your phone on silent and only check your email once a day; set it up so her emails go directly to a seperate folder so you don't have to look at them in your inbox if that's what it takes. A relentless barrage of communication attempts will wear anyone down.

This is totally just my opinion .... and I haven't read your whole sitch ... but behavior like this tells me *she* hasn't changed. What she WANTS (or thinks she wants) has changed; now she wants YOU. But is she pursuing you with respect, in a way that takes your needs and desires into consideration? No, it's still me me me me me, what *I* want, what *I* need, now now now now now with a huge side order of poor pitiful me into the bargain.

Time to take care of you, dude.

[AFWAW]

Thanks guys. Well, she called me again and I didn't know who it was--she was using her work cell. She blubbered and cried and carried on. Told me she was "COMING HOME" right now and there was nothing I could do to stop her. I told her calmly not to go down this road with me and do something else she would regret. She wanted to know, why I didn't want her home. I gave the standard answer of I don't know how I feel. Why aren't you talking to me anymore? I told her at some point I needed to protect myself emotionally. Who is this person you're talking to. Just a friend. Well I'm NOT going to let another woman steal my man.--I had to fight the urge to laugh out loud at this. I said, you've got a lot of nerve saying that after all you've put me thru. I asked you nicely to leave me alone, now I'm telling you to do so.

She went on and on and on about how stupid she was and how she missed me and how she missed my D and about how great I was and how she admired me. And then again, with the, can I please come home? I told her I was not comfortable with that and I don't know how I feel and then more crying--I tried to get off the phone several times--she wouldn't let me--she'd start wailing.

UGH--ok, I still don't want her back at this point. I mean really. I don't deserve this. My daughter does not deserve this. I don't think I would have any respect for myself if I did take her back. I think she is still trying to control me and I think she would still try to control me if she did come back. This conversation is the exact reason I did not want or do not want to talk to her.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Then DON'T. Don't take ANY calls from any number that you're not sure what it is.

I agree with Kett -- this is still ALL about HER.

Puppy

[AFWAW]

Had about 30 calls today so far. I finally turned the phone off. She has also gone on my facebook account and sent mean messages to all the freinds that are girls. "bunnyboiler" huh? Wow, I'm think I'm just going to pay the lawyer and get it over with. Crazy, way crazy and way unexpectd.