A while ago, I did something to her that really hurt her and completely turned her off sexually. Sex had been rare for a while and non existent recently. I only found out last night how much that one occurence had destroyed her.
We kind of glossed over that little tidbit huh?
I think you should fess up to this "something."
Not because I need or want to know, but because it looks like a key here. I could fill in that "something" with any one of a number of things that could "hurt" a woman. (Matter of fact, you used the word "destroyed")(heavy term to use) Some of them to the point of no return for her...
Start there.....
Spill the beans, the net and this forum is anonymous and you aren't going to get anywhere fast if you don't speak up about what you did otherwise you're just sitting on this forum typing up numerous posts and wasting time.