WHAT are your DB goals for the week? Unless I missed them, you didn't say.
Planning to be more mysterious. Upping the looking good factor and going out with a friend on Thurs night.
You are not in the US right?
That`s right.
Please don't take offense.-No offense taken;-hugely appreciate your input.
Do you love your H? I don`t know. He`s become so boring-interested in only two things which I have no interest in whatsoever.
Do you want to save your marriage? -See above.Though I do think its better for the kids if we at least try to work on salvaging and improving our relationship and hopefully, rekindle love again.
Do you still have work to do on you? -As you know, I`m seeing a new therapist for the past three months though regard myself as just being at the start I`m just at the start of my journey
Are you thinking about calling mediation because H suggested it-yes, the only reason. I am not bound legally to attend. I made it very clear to H that I don`t want a separation at this time AND that I believe we owe it to our marriage to alt least go to couples therapy. But I don`t want to be controlling his decision and stopping him from leaving.
Your H has talked, has looked at apartments, says he wants to tell the kids. Has he done anything about it? Not that I know of.
I`m very sure that I don`t want separation but I`m concerned that our living in limbo situation might actually be worse for the kids-and for me-than separation. I also don`t want H to think that I`m so desperate to stay married to him that I `ll put up with living like this indefinitely.
After all the crap that`s gone under the bridge I don`t know how we can recover. Especially as he shows no sign of even wanting us to recover.
In fact his going home this week end to defy his mother`s ban on him, just is another nail in the coffin.He`s very much presenting himself now as a separated man to his family-no wedding ring,bringing one son along and all this tales of woe. So I`m anticipating that he`ll be egging me one to register for the mediation this week. I don`t know what to do really.
I`m as confused and stuck as he is.
Thanks for your advice Cat. Wish I could be as sure as you about staying with this. Not going to do ANYTHING at all while I`m feeling this way.
