Things are going pretty well. We talked a bit about me telling him what to do on Friday. He didn't say much, but i am paying attention to try to see where he might feel that way. We also talked about sex and being affectionate, and about that he feels bad still. It was a very productive talk and Saturday morning we ended up doing the deed at his initiation. I was really so surprised. We went out with friends that night, and he was a little quiet. The kids were at my mom's for the night and we were able to sleep in and even cuddle. Even had sex again this morning. He's also saying he loves me daily. It feels so good.

He is still dealing with his issues though as am I. I still have a hard time giving him space and he still has a hard time understanding that I need more than usual right now. Over all, though, it's great. A fight free week, really talking, ILY's and sex. I really didn't think we'd be here a week ago. ANd really the most important thing I've done to help us get here is shut up. I find myself really thinking now before I say something. There have still been times I shouldn't have said anything, but even then, things are better. I am feeling like we will really be able to get past it. I am looking forward to a time of not thinking about it everyday.


Me 34
H 37
Kids 7 & 4
Married 12yrs, together 17
Kiss/EA lasted 2 weeks.
NC since 8/7