Do you have the kids? So get busy and do something with them right now. Don't stay home. Also, Coach told me to tell you to take your cell phone apart - take the battery out and put it away...take the sim card out and put it in another place...then put the phone itself in yet another place. That way, if you get tempted to call her and spill the beans, you will HAVE TO THINK ABOUT IT WHILE YOU TAKE THE TIME TO FIND THE PARTS AND PUT THE DAMNED PHONE TOGETHER (I'm guessing he's done this before :))
My advice is to load up the car with the kids, find something fun and involved to do and go do it. And leave the phone at home - in pieces.
You are now going to live with the reality that there are MILES between the two of you - and people in between (OM, L, enabling friends, your children, your L...). You are not going to be her bff through this. You are going to play hardball with her legally, financially and you are going to protect yourself & the children emotionally. This is to educate her to the realities of the MILES she has placed between the two of you with this behavior. This is to educate her on the realities of life as your estranged spouse. This is to educate her on the realities of who you will be going forward as the name on the other side of the V on those D papers. Let her be broke. Let her be scared. Let her miss her house and stuff. Let her worry about how this will affect the kids. Do not spare her a sliver of the impact. It's the best thing for her - she'll grow up. You want an adult for a wife and an adult for the mother of your children. Insist on it.
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Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
