I agree with Snodderly wholeheartedly. What will confuse you is the occasional "pop out" of the adult part of H. But it doesn't last long. It is hard to try to co-parent. I do keep H informed of what is occuring with S, but I don't expect him to do, say, or act like his parent. My S says his dad is not mature right now, is not there for him like a parent, but that he knows I am. That is what you have to let it be. Your kids are teens. They can have an understanding of this, although it is still difficult for them.
So right now you have 3 teenagers. Only two of them can you possibly influence. But THEY are the ones you should be concerning yourself with.
Have a good day.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
