Can you stop "finding out" information on "their" activities? Maybe you could ask your friends who are filling you in on the latest and greatest gossip about ex and OW should stop. It is not helping you to move on, it just makes you spin like a top.
Seeing as you have had nothing but ugly emails from your EX and OW, why do you not block their address?
It just seems to me that each time you receive something from them you take 3 steps backwards and this is not good for you.
Just my opinion....
(((hugs)))
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
n, Find a way to block the emails from that email address or better yet, change your email address. When you see postings from them, just delete them. She's a vindictive lady out for some fun at your expense. You know what she's like, so do not allow her to bring you down. By getting upset....you are allowing her to win.
Also, maybe it's time you spoke to your friends and asked them not to share so much information as to what is going on in your xh's life right now. You need time to heel and even though they are saying that they aren't having much contact, if any with them, they certainly appear to know quite a bit of what is going on.
N, you have to make the deicision as to whether or not you want to to move ahead and not have comments or emails such as you received bring you down. Take one huge step and block the emails. You have to find a way to move ahead and heal from this mess.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thank you for posting to me! One thing about it, the friends that were filling me in are out of touch with ex & OW now, they have moved back to Laos. I'm keeping in touch with my friend but she is not saying anything about them other than they went to a place to eat the other night in the part of town that ex & "the troll" as she calls her, lived. She said they can go there now & not have to worry about running into her.
The emails have been very upsetting & hurtful at the time, but I have to stop & think.... that woman is very insecure & her insecurities are about me, which in a way that makes me feel good that she has to or is worried about me. If she has to send an email like that, then things are not as great as they seem. Plus, she is crazy!
She has changed email addresses, so even if I blocked she would change, that is what she has done. It's harder for me to change since I use my email for my work, so for now I'm just trying not to let it get to me.
I'm really concerned about work right now, I think with that email & the work sitch just hit me a little hard being all in the same week. I'm better now, still down about work but I'm better about the email even as cruel as it was, my peace rest b/c I know eventually she is going to pay dearly for all of this!
I can't tell you both & everyone on here how much your support & advice means to me!! I could not have gotten thru any of this without all of you! I guess most of the time I don't have a lot to say but you know, it's so good to know you are all here for me!!
N, Focus on you, your life and your work situation. These are the things that are very important to you right now.
As for the troll, I wouldn't give her another thought. It's obvious that she still considers you a threat. That says a lot.
Please take care of yourself and enjoy the holiday.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I think that is the the satisfaction I have that the troll still considers me a threat. It does say a lot!
I had a good holiday with my parents but on a sad note, the woman I mentioned that has been like a 2nd Mom to me that had the shingles, well her son died suddenly at age 51. The funeral was today & it was so sad!!! I'm really tired & I've got to do some part time work with the temp agency tomorrow. If I didn't need this money I wouldn't do it but it will be good for me to make a little bit.
I'm still trying to be very positive about my work sitch & also about this mess with my ex, I do hope & pray that he wakes up & gets away from that troll, she is a scary, mean & cruel person.
N, I'm sorry to hear about the loss. He's very young. I do hope that this doesn't set her over recovery back.
Are you taking vitamins? Sounds like you need some B vitamins.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thank you for checking in on me. I just haven't been on the boards lately. I did get a phone call last night from my ex's best friend, this is very unusual for him to call me & talk about someone, especially his best friend. Here are some things he said about her:
His friend said that she works him, she manipulates everything. Said she is passive aggressive. He can’t have friends or go out bowling or anything because she will pout & give him a sob story so he won’t leave her. It’s all about “poor me” & her being left out, she pouts & pretends she is all hurt & upset all the time so she can get him to do whatever she wants him to do.
She told them that she had gotten into my face book account & told them that I said I would get ex back. I didn’t say that so that is a lie, but he also said that he knew she lied about everything all the time.
She made it seem like that it was a battle between him choosing his friend or her & ex said he was tired of being in the middle, but according to friend that wasn't the case b/c they were never around them. He told my ex what he thought of her.
Friend said she is really getting fat, she is very insecure, but she totally controls ex. Said ex doesn’t have a mind anymore.
She is very lazy, will not work or do anything. Ex asked her to take the dog out & she started saying something about did he want his wife walking around a strange place, so ex had to take the dog out.
She was bankrupt when they married, they both made good money when they were in the states but they couldn't make ends meet.
Friend said he had never met anyone like her. She will tell ex anything & everything to work it like she wants & he is believing her. Said ex is lost, no mind, no input no nothing, she is in total control. He doesn’t know what she has done to him to make him like this, he did say it was some major brainwashing.
Said she is very selfish – doesn’t really care about ex just about the money & now he has a good job that she got him. She will not work, never planned to.
Friend told ex that he didn’t even know him anymore, he also told ex what he thought about her.
Said she is very interested in me & what I’m emailing, she is still trying to get into my account the last he knew anything about. Said she is the most insecure, manipulative, passive aggressive, shallow, transparent, mean person he has ever met in his life. He is very upset about his friendship being over with ex.
Ok, that’s all I can think of right now that he told me but I thought you would like to know what I heard. I was shocked that he even called me, that is not him. He just stays out of everything & would not normally go & talk about anyone, especially his best friend.
He is really mixed up in something that is really way out there!!! I just pray for him, that is all I can do.
I sometimes look at my x and how destructive and sick he is you wonder do they get sicker from their OW or os it part of the crises My xh OW now wife sounds like a child on the phone she slurs or is high still to this day I see no remorse in x..he has chosen this oww over his kids and his well being she aids his destruction im sorry for your Pain N these mlcers have to figure it out on their own maybe one day your SH will peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
