Ok, I checked through some of my notes from my DB coaching sessions and she suggested 3 weeks to trial new strategy but keep in mind that's my case and H had been gone a while then. I did try nc then and it didn't work so coach suggested I reinitiate contact with H which was not difficult. I simply asked him to do me a favour re the kids. She said anger and impatience are my greatets enemies and guess she is right. That's what strikes me about Dia's sitch. She has patiently affirmed and moved slowly, slowly with no expectations-lessons for all. Keep thinking that there's no one right way to do this...........
