RE the no contact I'm thinking that my H hasn't noticed either or is probably relieved. As you say it's our project not theirs.
Also my H threatens D too when he's angry and then does nothing about it. There must be a reason why they don't want a D, not sure what it is though. They've left, got OW why not go the whole way and D - it doesn't make sense. If I was the one that walked (and I nearly did) I'd want it over and done with and sorted. Maybe as the M wasn't that important to them the D isn't either?
