H doesn't care too much for gifts Nell so he probably won't be fazed by no gift. (It may give him a reason to consider why the kids did not organise to do something with him though.) The kids said, and they're right, that he buys whatever he wants for himself anyway..if he wants it he goes straight out and gets it. He's always been like that and to be fair he always encouraged me to do the same. (I didn't though-I spend more on me now than ever!)
Re H not realising I haven't been in contact-What I am saying is he's only been to the house twice since I've been out of contact. Once was early afternoon so he would have thought I was at work. The second time was today and he thought I was out. So today would probably have been the first time that he thought, "Gee haven't heard from/seen Cas for a while" and that's 13 days later. Men don't sweat the small stuff like we do and this is our project not theirs. With that in mind and the busy working week H could well be oblivious to my nc for 13 days and just be recognising it now. Hope I explained it better now.
