Have to say Cat, for six months at least my head`s been pretty full of our madness too so that I wasn`t as present as I could have been as a Mum/teacher/daughter/friend. Just whirring away obsessively about H, the M etc.
I started to stop spinning last April with the DB techniques.
And pretty much came to a full stop last Sunday with that healing meditation.
I`ll be interested to see if this slows H down on his spin.
So much of my spinning mirrored his. I had extreme Anger, depression, suicidal thoughts. I insulted every bit of him.Betrayed him by talking about him to my sibs and friends.Begged him to leave.
And I wasn`t as present as I should have been to my kids, my work colleagues, my friends and family.
Looney time!
Stopping the spin has been interesting. It made H angrier at first but this week everything finally seems calm. I have no knot in my stomach when I`m coming home, I don`t dread the sound of his footstep on the stairs.
He`s still in spin mode but not at full cycle. I`ll be interested to see how much more he can slow.
Gee, I`d be really glad to get "I really havent been very present for the past six months" as your H told you. Can`t imagine my guy ever acknowledging his absence.
His interests have dwindled down to two things-football and his homecounty. Doesn`t read, listen to music, watch TV(unless of course its to do with footbal and his home county).Oh and he has a penchant for foods from his childhood days-certain types of bread and biscuits for example. Real regressive stuff.
