trying hard to figure things out

[Eskimo Nell]

Hi Twist
Oh, I have just read your posts and I am REALLY feeling your pain - I am there myself.

I just wanted to say what a brilliant job I think that you are doing. You have gathered strength and sound like you are GAL'ing so very well.

The hurt over your birthday I can also identify with, as I had the same 'nothing' from my H in July on my birhtday (you can read my post if you care to at Upside Down, still struggling and trying to detach).

I was drawn to your post as you are not living with your H any longer and have no kids. My H walked out so I am here alone and no kids either. This makes me exceptionally lonely, no family and only a few new friends.

I shall be keeping my eye on you and see how you are doing. I don't have any advice, being in much the same situation, but just wanted you to know that you are NOT alone. There are some great people on these boards and they will comfort as well as challenge you. Both are equally important in your progress, as far as I have seen things work so far.

Try to find something to do with yourself every day. At least you are working, which I know has it's pro's and con's for you right now, with H being there too. Keep your distance and remain mysterious ...

Continue to journal and vent here ... it is a safe haven with those who know what you are going through. My thoughts are with you, Twist.