When he asked me to explain I said that it would mean I would no longer live in limbo, that I wouldn't be hanging around, that we would no longer date, or meet for dinner, or spend holidays together as a family and that I would no longer consider him family or friend. And, I added, that I would not be alone.
Stunned silence followed as he took it in. He looked at me to see if I meant it and I didn't blink. He blinked many, many times.
I'm processing this. How do I say something like this to my W. And mean it. Would it make a difference.
Don't. Say. It. Right. Now. You are still too new to the sitch. And you don't ever want to say it unless you mean it and can live with the consequences. I still mean it. I still would live it if he filed.
It can be a disaster to just pull things off of other threads and throw them into your sitch. Just keep it in your back pocket, or on a note, or something like that.
Don't get ahead of yourself, Bill.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
