Wow, Dia, that was an amazing response. I was expecting a line or two..........
I thank you sincerely for giving so much time to give the explanation. I can see many parallels in how we have handled things but I think that the main difference is you had a period of virtually nil contact which we haven't had.
We've also had lots of positive interactions including family time but that's what is construed as 'cake eating' and a no-no. There's been lots of opportunity for H to say no to events and activities but he has come along and this gives me the impression that he has not closed the door. However, I try to control it by being impatient and asking him to step closer which he cannot handle. Invariably when I pressure him there's a blow up; his way of reducing the pressure and moving things back to square 1 a position he is really comfortable with.
I have analysed ow quite a bit in all this and can see she is a friend, a diversion perhaps but can't see her as the permanent long term partner...could be wrong of course.
Definitely lots of food for thought and I am so grateful for your frank and honest sharing of information.
You are a talented and entertaining writer, Dia. I have enjoyed reading your posts and will continue to have my daily updates, all the time sending you wishes for your ongoing patience and the speediest of reconciliations.
