Karen, I don't know what to make of it, her following me around talking to me, saying she misses me, asking if she can call over the weekend.
My guess would be since you distanced yourself a little bit, she's trying to reel you back in and make sure you're still going to be there for her. I think what you probably should do is keep yourself super busy GALing this weekend and miss her call. And then don't call her back 5 minutes later, but when you get a chance.
You need to distance, detach, and help her realize D will not be as she imagines. Not by being unfriendly, but I don't think you should be comforting her when she's upset about what she's putting your family through by her choices & not act like her bff when she's divorcing you. Cut down on chats with her; keep them brief and always end them first.
I do think at some point your W is going to realize that D is not as she pictures in her head now; some fantasyland where everything in her life is perfect; she'll have all the positive stuff of marriage without actually being married, and the positive part of being single but still depending on you for support. I just think detach now, b/c if you let it go on for too long, I would imagine when she does realize her fantasies are fantasies and wants to reconcile with you, you may not be interested at that point.
