Cat,
I just told him I appreciated that he would go with me, but I know how busy he is so he could just e-mail if he wanted to. I tried to not present as "controlling" I just wanted to give him an option, maybe I thought into it too much....

Me 55
H 49
Married 21 years
No kids
bomb 5/09
filed 7/09
divorced and moving forward 5/10

Life is all about Plan B