It think your husband and my wife are reading off the same script. "You've done everything perfectly. You are this perfect guy, i just don't want you." Well, that makes me feel better. Haha. The silence thing drives me nuts too, btw. I ask questions, all i get is a blank stare.
I try not to ask questions because all I get are lies (pretty sure) as the answers. Sometimes it's hard not to ask questions, though. I've seen the blank stare as well....and I've heard/seen lots of crying as well.
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
My H has come out with the same script, doesnt want responsibilites, wants to see if he can be on his own, we married at 22 and had been together since we were 16/17.. And all the ILYBINILWY rubbish too! We havent got as far as OW yet but Im beginning to think only time till we have to cross that bridge! Go and enjoy the cabin on your own, make new memories which are more current than the old ones and focus on them.. I know its hard I love my H more than anything but I just have to come to terms with he doesnt and may never ever again! Some days I can say "his loss" others I ball my eyes out for what I have lost!
____________________________
W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
I e-mailed my h and told him to e-mail me all the instructions I would need to run the cabin on my own. THEN it will be time for ME to pack in my girlfriends for the weekend. So far, no response back from him. He was already to go next weekend with me and now I said, thanks but no thanks and I'm getting nothing back. Is that a 180?
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
Please, please SLOW DOWN. He said he would go with you, although I would have left out the one last time. Now did you tell him you don't want to go with him or did you just ask for directions. You need to know and may not remember everything he shows you in one shot.
You are trying to hard to control him, although it may have been a 180, part of it is the presentation. I think your wanting to know HOW was the 180. JMO though. I'm gonna see if I can track down the big guys.
search mountainwest (maybe with a space) I saw him on a few lists over there.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
Cat, I just told him I appreciated that he would go with me, but I know how busy he is so he could just e-mail if he wanted to. I tried to not present as "controlling" I just wanted to give him an option, maybe I thought into it too much....
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
